http://groundhog.tv/search/gateway Results 1-10 of 93 total hits in 0 ms. for search term lisa daily. Daytime Show host Cyndi Edwards sat down with relationship expert, Lisa Daily, who spoke about some lessons from the new movie Eat Pray Love. The overall message was that one should go after whatever he or she wants. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTRMVEV6Zkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pRME9qRTNmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05EbzFNbng4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0xNTA5MTkwODQy http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=49233 Fri, 13 Aug 2010 10:44:17 EDT >>dave: and we are talking a lot today about the new julia roberts' film, "eat pray love." We've all heard the phrase, the key to a man's heart is through his stomach. >>Cyndi: well, our relationship expert lisa daily says you can also pray your way to love. Lisa joins us now. Pray your way to love? >> Well, sure! you know, it's really important to know what it is that you want and what you're looking for. And we talked a little bit about this before about sort of -- you don't really have to be very specific as far as i want someone 6'3", i want this. What you really need to think about and pray on is that something you're comfortable doing is how you want to feel. >>Cyndi: okay. What lessons can we learn from this movie, "eat pray love"? good lessons from the book and movie. The first is, happiness does not sort of land on you like an air-conditioner falling out of the window. >>Dave: good analogy. >> Exactly. You have to seek it out. You have to cultivate it. It's really interesting to me. There is a class at harvard, actually the most popular class at harvard. Basically how to be happy class. The guy who teaches the class says it's all in your head. >>Cyndi: totally is. >> You either decide to be happy or not. >>Dave: i think it's also being prepared to see happiness as it floats by. You get these windows and opportunities, if you're not ready to jump, then, you know, you miss. >> If you have your eyes closed and fists clenched, then you'll miss the whole thing. The next thing that is a really good lesson in the movie, you want to do things that make you feel connected to the world around you and to the people around you. I think another really good lesson is that pleasure is not something that he we need to learn. And it's interesting, because in the book and in the movie, it seems like she needs to go to italy to sort of learn how to feel pleasure. But the truth is that we all are born that way. Babies smile. And when we're kids, we know how to play and have fun and run around. We just have to remember that. >>Dave: embrace everything. >> Exactly. >>Cyndi: so that's how we he accomplish this. We embrace life. Embrace the things around us. You don't have to leave the country to find happiness. >> You don't. The thing, is my mom always says something which i think is really appropriate here. Wherever you go, there you are. If you go to italy, and -- there are these trips that are happening now where you can, you know, go do the big "eat pray love" tour, it is a lovely idea, but the truth is, if you're not going with the right spirit, not going there to learn something, if you are just going to the different places, it's as silly as thinking if you buy certain napkin rings your parties will be more interesting. >>Cyndi: right. It will be a letdown if you go into it the wrong way. >>Dave: what about the stories i've heard of women leaving their husbands after reading the book? >> You know, i don't think any movie or any book can really inspire someone to do something that they maybe weren't thinking of anyway. Again, it's one of those situations where you have the opportunity and you have the chance to be happy in whatever situation that you're in. So if you just leave, it's like moving to a new city and thinking that your problems are going to -- >>dave: the grass is not always greener on the other side. >> It's not. >>Cyndi: what would an "eat pray love" date night look like? >> This is really interesting. I was thinking about this, because a lot of my friends have said, i hated the book or i hate the movie, who has a year to spend tromping around in bali and italy -- or the money, exactly. I thought, what could you do in a day? Really, what it is, her whole sort of journey is about learning to enjoy things and about feeling connected to the world around the universe around here. I thought if you spent the day, even half of a day, spending time with friends and really relaxing and enjoying yourself, and really put yourself in that good frame of mind before you went out with your husband or your boyfriend. You're going to have a much different experience than if you're running around all day, trying to get the laundry done. It's all about that frame of mind. >>Cyndi: finally, why is it more selfish to put everyone else's needs before yourself? >> Well, it's really interesting, because people think, oh, if i do everything for everyone else and how wonderful that is, but it's not. Your personality is not the same when you are depleted as it is when you're fulfilled. The truth is, we can't run on empty. We have to take that time to take care of ourselves. Otherwise, we're creating more of a problem. We're not really the solution. >>Dave: very good. Lisa daily, always interesting information. Thank you very much. >>Cyndi: i'm going to travel right now. [ Laughter ] just to my desk. Thank you, lisa. Lisa's book is "stop getting dumped." >>Dave: be sure to pick up a copy. "Daytime" will be right back. Entertainment Sports Dating expert, Lisa Daily, came onto the Daytime Show to talk about a new study that shows that men increase their chances of getting dates if there is romantic music playing in the background. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTNMVEkzZkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pJM09qQXdmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05Eb3pNM3g4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0xMTczNjkwNzk0 http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=49155 Tue, 27 Jul 2010 10:27:00 EDT to agree to a date when a romantic song is playing in the background when asked on a date. >>Cyndi: our dating expert lisa daily is here to tell us more about this. Okay. >>Dave: it makes sense, in a way. >>Cyndi: yes, no? >> Sort of. When you think about how different music makes you feel in different ways. It was really interesting. They took this group of 87 women. And they first asked them to rate a group of men from handsome to average to not attractive. They sent in the most average guy for each woman, the one she was so-so on. And in some cases, they would play the romantic song and in some cases not. And they were 52% likely to get a date if there was romantic music playing in the background. And only 28% if there was no music. >>Cyndi: well, it kind of makes sense. Music does evoke emotion. If you're hearing something that is lovely, maybe everything around you looks better. >>Dave: the study. The women are like subjected to these guys and they have already decided who is the median person. And they know that they are coming in. >> Well, they don't know that they are coming to ask them for a date. They ask them to rate two different products. So they would ask the person who they found to be the most neutral. And if you think about it, if i were going to rate two different types of cereal, if they sent in a particularly unattractive person or attractive person, i think i would focus more on the cereal. >>Cyndi: what should a young man do, then, when asking a young lady out on a date? If he's on the phone, should he background music playing loud enough she can hear it? >> It is a possibility. If you are thinking of approaching someone, say, in a bar, that you might wait until a ballad comes on or more romantic song comes on. Also, if you're on a first date, when you go back to your house, if that's what you do, go to her house, put a little music on. >>Cyndi: not "welcome to the jungle." >> Exactly, exactly. >>Dave: that's funny. Nanci called me yesterday from her car, because that's her rolling phone booth. And she called me because eric clapton's -- what's the song? "With you tonight." It was playing on the radio. That's the song i used to sing to her in the band and she got all teary-eyed because she's out of town. >> She got all mushy. >>Dave: she got all mushy and called me back and said, i'm sorry. I just got all mushy when i heard it. >> So sweet. And you think about how that music makes us feel, especially like when we see a romantic movie. There's always some fabulous song playing in the background. So we're sort of conditioned to sort of think about the possibilities of love when we hear those kinds of songs. >>Cyndi: could this work for women approaching men, say, in a bar to strike up a conversation, wait until there is a nice song playing? Does it affect everyone? >> It's a very small study, and they only tested women. In fact, they only tested one song. It was a french song. We couldn't even use that. >>Dave: so far we only know it works on french women. >> We know it works on 18 to 20-year-old french women with one particular french romantic song. But there have been a number of other studies that show that music affects us in various different ways from, you know, violent video games and things like that affecting other things. And so, absolutely, but if you think about it, men maybe are going to have a different cue than maybe a woman would. >>Dave: i would think a guy would probably be more susceptible or acceptable to a proposal if there was something kind of rock 'n' roll playing in the background. A woman who drinks beer out of a bottle and likes rock 'n' roll is kind of appealing to a lot of guys. >> Exactly, exactly. >>Cyndi: we'll have to conduct a little study of our own. Bring the boom box and we'll go do some research. Thank you, lisa. >> Thank you. >>Dave: to find the best music to date by, you can check out lisa daily's dating advice blog, datingexpert.Tv. >>Cyndi: and be sure to check out her best-selling dating book. It is called "stop getting dumped." >>Dave: i think lynyrd skynyrd would work. Don't you think? Free bird? >> There you go. >>Cyndi: we'll be right back. Entertainment Entertainment/Music Sports Dating coach, Lisa Daily, came onto the Daytime Show to talk about how in-laws can negatively affect relationships. She said that interfering in-laws can really end relationships if they are not handled correctly. The problem comes when a spouse and the in-laws fight openly and puts the person at the center of the battles in an impossible situation. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTNMVEl3Zkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pJNE9qSXhmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05Eb3hOSHg4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF05Nzg3NDU2MjA= http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=49125 Tue, 20 Jul 2010 10:28:21 EDT Lisa daily is here to tell us what to do with your spouse and in-laws clash. >>Cyndi: sadly, this happens more than a few times. >> It happens a lot. It puts so much pressure on the son or the daughter who has the mother and spouse or father and spouse fighting. It's damaging to the marriage. It's damaging to the relationship with the parents, and it is just a killer for the person who is in the middle. >>Dave: sometimes it goes both ways. Sometimes everybody hates everybody. >>Cyndi: how do you stop it? Just don't get together for dinners. >> If everybody hates everybody, then you have to go someplace like tahiti or hawaii for thanksgiving and skip the crazy fest. If you are the parents, then you need realize every time you say something about your child's spouse, you're hurting them. It's disrespectful. You're hurting them. The same thing is true if you are the spouse and you hate your mother-in-law or father-in-law, you really have to realize you're causing a lot of damage to your marriage. It's just a no-win situation that way. >>Cyndi: okay. So just zip it. >>Dave: no mother-in-law jokes. >> No mother-in-law jokes. You can vent to your girlfriends girlfriends. >>Dave: how do you go about stopping this whole thing that continues to be circular almost? >> One of the things that is important, if you find yourself in a situation where your mother-in-law is saying things or your wife is saying things or your husband, to talk about the end game with them. And say, okay, let's say that you convince me that my wife is a gold-digging witch. So what do i do from there? If i accept that, then maybe that means i get divorced and then my children are in a broken family and play out the entire end game. The same thing can go for your spouse. If you say, okay, what happens if you convince me that my mother or my father is a terrible, horrible person. And how is that supposed to make me feel from there on out? >>Cyndi: right. And then the kids never know their grandparents, et cetera, et cetera. >>Dave: in the final scenario, who, in fact, do you go, okay, i've got to be loyal to mom or dad -- mom and dad or loyal to the spouse. >> You have to be loyal to the spouse. >>Dave: that's what i figure. >> You have a new family you created. The thing is, a lot of times -- a lot of the problems that happen with feuding, spous and in-laws, the spouse in the middle never takes sides. If they think i'm neutral like switzerland, it will go away. The truth is, you have to take a side. You have to tell your mom, this is my wife or tell your dad, this is my husband. Question of a family and it's not okay for you to disrespect them in this way. And make it clear to your spouse and then just say this is not acceptable. If you guys can't get along, then we're not going to get together. >>Cyndi: i think some fellows would have a hard time saying that to their moms. Especially those that have that special relationship. You know what i'm talking about? >> Yeah, it is hard. And if you're in a relationship like that, where the husband is less of a dominate personality and the wife is more of a minant personality, usually those two people match up. A lot of times the husband -- the wife and mother are feuding for power. And if you're the wife in that situation, you know, you have to take a stand. >>Dave: even if it's against your own mother. >> It's a hard thing to do. But the truth is, if you don't deal with it, it's just going to continue to get worse and worse. If you do deal with it and say it's just not acceptable. It's one painful conversation. We say it's not acceptable for you to treat my wife this way. I'm always going to choose her over you, and you're going to have to deal with that, it usually will dissipate after that. It's unpleasant conversation but you don't want it dragging on >>Cyndi: mom will come around eventually, if she wants to see her baby boy. >> And the grandchildren are in play, she'll come to -- >>cyndi: thank you, lisa. Interesting topic. To check out lisa daily's dating advice, go to her blog, datingexpert.Tv. >>Dave: and pick up her best-selling book, "stop getting dumped" ." Lisa lisa daily, thank you very much. >>Cyndi: lindsay macdonald and charlie hanlon show us options when it comes to swimming pools. >>Dave: stay with us. Entertainment Sports Dating coach Lisa Daily came onto the Daytime Show to talk about why the 20 something generation is choosing to date 10 years before getting married. Daily says alot of it has todo with 9/11 and the wars which are currently raging on. She also pointed to the fact that alot of 20+ year olds come from divorced families. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTNMVEV6Zkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pBek9qUTNmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd016bzFNSHg4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0yMzk2MTc0MDU3 http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=49090 Tue, 13 Jul 2010 10:03:47 EDT getting dumped" our dating coach lisa daily is here to tell us why that generation has become generation cold feet. >>Dave: hmmm. >>Cyndi: hi. >> Hi. >>Dave: good to see you again. Seems like it's been forever but we see you at least once a week, which is always nice. >> Never enough. >>Cyndi: we need more lisa. Good for the metabolism. >>Dave: you say this is generation cold feet. People are waiting a long time to wait to get married. Why are ty waiting? >> There are a variety of factors. The economy, 9/11, the war, and things are just -- >>cyndi: still? 9/11? >> Well, yeah, you're talking about like with sort of going on, people are dating for like ten years. That was sort of the thing that kind of kicked this off immediately after 9/11, we saw a whole bunch of people getting married right away and there was sort of this panic, i need to establish myself and get my family around me. But after that, we started seeing kind of a downward trend with kids who are younger or people in their early 20s with waiting. The other thing is, a lot of these people who are in their late 20s grew up in divorced families and they don't want to repeat their parents' mistakes. >>Dave: scared. >>Cyndi: there a negative side to waiting and waiting and waiting? >> Well, there are a couple. The first thing is that if you wait for a really long time, a lot of times you end up in sort of a situation where you've already been doing it this way for ten years. So if somebody wants to change the relationship and the other person is like, hey, everything is great the way it is, you can have some conflict there. A lot of times, people, especially if they want to have children later that kind of thing, you know, they want to solidify things. >>Dave: you don't want to be 80 when they are just leaving for college. >> You don't want to be 80 when they are leaving for college. Right now, there is a trend in the u.S. And european countries where people are only having one or two children. It's not like you had six. Until you wait until you are 35 to get married or 40 even to get married, you're still okay to have kids. But, you know, it's another one of those things where we used to see that living together actually decreased your chances of getting married. And that was because people who tended to live together tended to be less traditional. But now, all bets are off. It actually can, you know, help you sort of see what will happen. >>Dave: it's really changed. Things are quite acceptable now. It's really almost the norm to move in together a while and check it out. >> The other norm is sex before marriage. If you take that out of the equation, it really does speed up the courtship process quite a bit. >>Cyndi: true. >> Back in the '40s where people are getting engaged in a week and a half, now, if you have that off the table, then you might wait a little longer. >>Cyndi: why do i hear about so many people living together seven, ten years, then they are married and divorced right away. What is that about? >> It's kind of a strange thing. I think a lot of times people have real attachment to the idea of what marriage is supposed to be. And it could be a negative thing that they think is going to happen. They may think that things will change dramatically in a positive way. The truth is -- >>dave: nothing changes. >> -- Nothing changes. You have a piece of paper. Maybe easier to file your taxes. But other than that, it's not dramatically different. If you have all these expectations, it can make it difficult. >>Dave: look at goldie hawn and kurt russell, 25 something years and four kids later, they are still together and not married. >>Cyndi: johnny depp. Everything is going swell. Dave and i -- >>dave: for more information, you can check out lisa's dating advice. Go to her dating advice blog, dating expert.Tv. >>Cyndi: and she has a best-selling dating book. It is called "stop getting dumped." That's not lisa's leg. >>Dave: still ahead on "daytime," an up-and-coming singer, songwriter who will blow you away with her unique sounding voice. >>Cyndi: you'll want to stick around for a performance from jill king. Entertainment Sports Dating expert, Lisa Daily came onto the Daytime Show to talk about a service called "Virtual Dating Assistants." Those who work long hours tend not to have the time to spend the time setting up dates or even spend the hours looking for relationships online. The assistants will set up the customer's profile and even the dates themselves. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTFMVEU0Zkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pBeU9qUTRmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05EbzFNM3g4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0yMjcxNjA2NzQ3 http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=48809 Tue, 18 May 2010 10:02:48 EDT virtual dating assistant. >>Dave: assistants will do almost anything these days. If you don't have 30 hours a week to devote to finding that someone special, you can call somebody. >>Cyndi: busy professionals have long had difficulty finding love online because of the searching and responding. It can take hours not to mention going out on the dates. >>Dave: it can take forever, but help may be on the way. >>Cyndi: our dating coach lisa daily tells us more. >>Dave: and here she is, the lovely lisa daily to talk about about -- >>cyndi: the virtual dating assistant. >>Dave: what the heck? >> A lot of people who have maybe work-at-home businesses or online businesses use virtual assistants. You maybe don't need a full-time person but you can hire somebody for 10 or 20 hours, a regular virtual assistant. Now, people, there are entire companies devoted to being virtual dating assistants. >>Cyndi: they really have to know what you're looking for. >> They do. And apparently, they do an extensive interview process. You're very specific about what it is you're looking for, what you're not looking for. And they do this big interview process. And then people will go online, search, do all these things for you. It's really interesting. Most of the packages that are available from the various companies are 40 hours a week. >>Cyndi: wow. >> Yeah. That was like the low end. The high end was 80 hours a week. Two people working full time to find you a date. >>Dave: i want to clarify, when you say virtual, it's somebody you don't see, doesn't come into your house, it's an online person representing you. >> They log on to your account -- apparently, a number of attractive women get 100, 200 e-mails a day. If you are a woman and you want to find the right guy but you don't have the time to weed through 200 e-mails a day, you hire a virtual assistant and they would weed out anybody that wouldn't be appropriate for you. They will respond back to people that they like. >>Cyndi: as you? >> As you. And when they -- when you're searching, say you are a guy looking for a woman, they will narrow it down to, say, 50 people. You check off yes, no, maybe, and they'll pursue the ones -- >>cyndi: will they go on the date for you if you are busy? >> They set the date up for you. Pick the restaurant -- >>dave: you better trust this person a lot. >> You know, it's quite pricey. You really do have to trust that they are going to do what you ask them to do. >>Cyndi: what do you think of this as a dating expert? >> You know, i understand that -- the average person spends about ten hours a week dating online. The average online dater spends ten hours a week answering e-mails, which is a lot. I can't imagine spending that kind of time. But i think the thing about romance, it's about chemistry and connecting, and if someone is pretending to be you, they are not going to have every single experience that you have. >>Cyndi: have to do your homework before you get together for that dinner because you had this great conversation online -- >> they give you notes. They give you a white paper, this is what you talked about. This is what you have in common, this, this, this. >>Dave: don't you think when you finally go out on the date you should say, look, here's how i ended up with you. I have this virtual dating assistant, but i trust this person, so i trust that we're going to have a good time. I would kind of spill that right away. >> I would think honesty is probably the best policy. Although the gentleman i spoke with yesterday who is the owner of virtual dating assistants.Com assistants.Com, they are the largest company, he said that he had sent a gentleman out on a date with a woman and she just read an article in the newspaper about it and said, can you believe that some people do this? He goes, wow, that's amazing. >>Cyndi: i wonder if a virtual has been set up with another virtual? >> That's -- >>cyndi: you mentioned it was kind of pricey. How pricey? >> 40 Hours a week dedicated to finding you love, $600 a month. If you want the 80 hour a week, basically two people working full time to find you a date, it runs $1200 a month. >>Dave: i see a great screenplay screenplay. Virtual dating assistant falls in love with somebody she set up and the other person she set them up for can't make it, so she goes in her place and falls in love. >>Cyndi: you just gave away the whole plot. >> I would love to write that, that's a great one. >>Cyndi: lisa daily, thank you. "Stop getting dumped." >>Dave: yes, pick up that book up. Coming up next on "daytime," she's gorgeous and has great pipes. >>Cyndi: country music sensation heidi newfield is here@ Entertainment Sports Relationship expert, Lisa Daily came onto the Daytime Show to talk about the best places to meet women, she started off by talking about Northern Texas. For the most part, she pointed to the Eastern half of the US as the best places for men to meet single women. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTFMVEV4Zkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pBME9qQTNmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05Eb3pOSHg4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF03OTMxMTg5OTk= http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=48765 Tue, 11 May 2010 10:04:07 EDT listen up, we're talking about the best places to meet single women. By the way, lisa has a couple of great books out there. One >>cyndi: and she joins us now. Hi, lisa. >> Hello. >>Cyndi: let's talk about this and the criteria for finding the best cities to meet women in. >>Dave: not that i'm interested. >> It's funny. There are lots and lots of different studies that tell you the best places to meet men. I couldn't find one single study that tells you the best place to meet women. I devised my own deal here. >>Dave: this is your own creation? >> This is it. >>Cyndi: how did you come up with these? >> The number of women to men, the ratio. We wanted more women in the city than men. Low divorce rates. Good education, so higher level of education for the city. A great social opportunity, general fitness level of the population, and good restaurants. Because you always have to go out to eat. >>Cyndi: you're right, you do. >>Dave: it's a good way to meet somebody and find out -- >> exactly. >>Dave: -- a lot of things about them. >> It's true. Especially in the early days, you always go out to eat. I thought, you know, let's give the cities that have great restaurants a little extra. >>Cyndi: all right. Let's go for it. >> You remember last time i put george clooney heads on the great cities. This time, jennifer aniston. Our number ten city is el paso, texas. There are about 20,000 more women than men in el paso, texas. Here is what interesting about the state of texas. There are more men, significantly more women in austin, houston and dallas. And there are more women down here in corpus christi and brownsville. I think if you're living in texas, just go to the next city, because everybody could be all matched up. >>Dave: and they all look like jennifer aniston. >>Cyndi: that's right. >> Number nine is st. Louis, missouri. Right over here. >>Dave: really? >>Cyndi: st. Louis. Okay. >>Dave: home of budweiser. >> There you go. >>Cyndi: perfect. >> Which always makes dating a little more fun. 20,000 More single women than single men. Number eight is boston. I don't know if i can make it all the way over there. >>Cyndi: you can do it. Yes! >> all right. So number eight is boston. Again, 20,000 more women. >>Cyndi: that kind of surprises me. >>Dave: really? >>Cyndi: that there are 20,000 more women in boston. >>Dave: and probably very intellectual and well to-do and well educated. >>Cyndi: and probably looking. >> All of that and more. The other things, the whole east coast is really wonderful for guys. The whole eastern seaboard. >>Cyndi: really? >> It's really odd. Lots of women in the east. Lots of men in the west. >>Dave: last time, didn't you say most of the good guys -- >> the good guys in the west. Good women in the east. >>Cyndi: we all have to come together. Meet in the middle. >> Number six, we have chicago which is really wonderful. 40,000 More single women there than single men. >>Dave: wow. They are all there to watch oprah. That's why. >> There you go. And i think my favorite tapas restaurant, number five, memphis, tennessee, which is one of my favorite, favorite places. >>Cyndi: how many more women than men? >> 25,000 More women than men. Great social opportunities. They rank really well. Of course, a lot of music clubs and things loo that. And -- number four, new orleans. New orleans, which is really, really wonderful. 40,000 More women in new orleans new orleans. Fantastic social opportunities. And, you know, beignet and crawfish. >>Dave: crank it up. We have a minute to go. >> Number three, new york, largest female ratio in the country. 180,000 More women than men. Low divorce rate. Great social opportunities, plus you have the met, my favorite place. Number two, washington, d.C., Where you have 40,000 more single women. Great social opportunities. They are fit and they are educated. And number one, raleigh, north carolina. Best educated, low divorce rate, great social life and barbeque. >>Cyndi: i thought there would have been more fellows in raleigh. >>Dave: that's fantastic. I wonder what jennifer aniston would think if she saw this segment. >>Cyndi: i think she would be thrilled. >>Dave: we are in l.A. She could be watching. >>Cyndi: hi, jennifer. Don't forget to get a copy of lisa's book, "stop getting dumped." Lindsay, over to you. >>Lindsay: hey, guys, coming up, queen latifah give us the secret to a good massage and how to smack talk. We get that from queen latifah. Sports Relationship expert Lisa Daily came onto the Daytime Show to talk about the book, "Cheaters Prosper." The author of the work makes the argument that infidelity will save the modern marriage. But, says Daily, the writer only provides a limited amount of proof in making his argument, often pointing to Japan and France as two models where cheating has flowered. Lisa Daily though did question is claims but did have to acknowledge a poll which shows 64% of Americans cheat. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTFMVEEwZkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pBek9qQTJmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05Ub3hOSHg4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0yMjE3ODQwNTcz http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=48724 Tue, 04 May 2010 10:03:06 EDT marriage. >>Cyndi: author of "stop getting dumped" lisa, what a topic, explosive. >>Dave: yes, there will be a lot of talk about this. >> There is going to be a lot of talk about this. This took has been sitting on my book for months irritating me every time i looked at it. I thought, okay, i'll talk about it on "daytime." >>Cyndi: "cheaters prosper" oh, my goodness. Do we even know how many people cheat? >> It's really interesting. There are a lot of studies, the book says 64%. >>Dave: that is amazing. >>Cyndi: that's sad. >> It is sad. I think statistics everywhere from 50 to 80 percent. 64% Is probably right. >>Cyndi: that's still sad. >>Dave: even to think that half of your friends or half of your coworkers are cheating on their spouses. Really? >> It's quite rampant. We should mention, this gentleman -- or not gentleman -- this man who wrote this book has a web site for people who are married to date. He sort of benefits from encouraging us all to go out and cheat. >>Dave: all right. What, according to this [clears throat] gentleman, are the reason people do cheat? >> He talks a lot about how people feel entitled to cheat or if they feel they are not happy in their relationship or not getting all of their needs met every single day, every single minute. >>Cyndi: i think that's how it's justified. My needs aren't being met. >> I think that's how it's being They actually found a sort of genetic reason for people cheating, if you have a certain gene, that you're more likely to cheat. >>Cyndi: is there a test for that? [ Laughter ] >> get that with the marital blood test in the beginning so you at least have some idea. >>Dave: you hear time and time again, you hear, or you read, say, an ann landers or something, i did it, don't do it. It ruined my life. It ruined everything. How can this be so opposite? >> It's really interesting. They do cite a number of statistics. One of the things was a men's health article that said a four-month affair cost $25,000. That's the average cost. So that's $77,000 a year. >>Cyndi: why? Because they are spending money on their mistress. >> I guess. Airplane tickets, jewelry. Economy-size boxes of prophylactics. >>Cyndi: and it works both ways. >> It does work both ways. A number of stories from women in the book and number of stories from men. It's quite shocking. One of the things i thought was interesting, only 1% of heart attacks are caused by sex. But of the 1% of harkts caused by sex, 75% are extramarital affairs. >>Cyndi: you're going to get caught, for sure, if the ambulance shows up. >>Dave: nothing you can do to get out of that. What does he say the benefits of having an affair are, and how can that save your marriage? >>Cyndi: it says how infidelity will save the modern marriage? How? >> I read and read and i could not find anything. There's a lot of talk about depression after the cheating, whether or not the relationship can stay together. He does cite the fact that france and japan both have lower rates of divorce and higher rates of infidelity. But i think it's more culturally acceptable. I don't think anybody likes it, though. They might put up with it in other countries, but they don't necessarily like it. And it seems like the benefits that he sort of touts in the book are very selfish benefits. They are all about, well, i want to feel good or i'm doing this for me. I deserve it. >>Cyndi: is it often that both parties are cheating on each other? Is that very rare, or does that happen quite a bit? >> I think it's one of those things where we don't really know, because it's hard to match up those that know this many women and this many men, but we don't know how many -- >>cyndi: at the same time. >> Exactly, involved in the same relationship. I think it's a surprise to -- a lot of times to the other partner, whether it's the husband or wife. >>Dave: kind of on that note, there are, obviously, people who do have open marriages. >>Cyndi: true. >>Dave: and they approve of whatever. >>Cyndi: and that's different. >> It is a different animal entirely. If you're agreeing to that, then you're not betraying the relationship. You both said this is what we want to do. This is fine for us. And you're not lying to your partner. You're not doing something that goes against what you promised to do. >>Cyndi: right. But you say, for the most part, this is never a good idea. >> No, it's terrible -- well, in the book, he says it's not that i'm justifying affairs, but he spends 200 and some pages justifying affairs. And this is a guy who makes a lot of money from people cheating. >>Dave: interesting reading or no? >> Well -- >>dave: pick it up or not? >> I feel sorry for the guy who brings that home or the woman who brings that home. >>Cyndi: nighttime reading, darling. Lisa daily, thank you. >> Thank you. >>Cyndi: good topic. >>Dave: we'll see you next time. Be sure to pick up lisa's copy of her book "stop getting dumped." Really good idea. >>Cyndi: tha >>cyndi: well, the weather may be heating up, but the economy not so much. Put the two together, and that means people will be looking for ways to enjoy the outdoors on a Relationship expert, Lisa Daily came onto the Daytime Show to talk about a new book called "Updateable" by Ellen Rakieten. The work looks at some appearance mistakes committed by men. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQTBMVEV6Zkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pFeE9qUXdmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd016bzFNM3g4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0zMzE1NDI3MDg= http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=48636 Tue, 13 Apr 2010 10:11:40 EDT mistakes that make them just that, undateable. >>Cyndi: oh, dear. Our dating coach lisa daily is here to tell us what you might be doing wrong and how it fix it. Good to have you here lacy -- [ laughter ] lisa and daily put together as laily. Okay, lisa, let's talk about these gentlemen. >> I love this book. Called "undateable." Ellen apparently was an oprah producer. It's a lot of photographs and really funny. Some of the stuff is too dirty to say on the air. >>Cyndi: i think it's a bit harsh. I read excerpts. >>Dave: is it an advice book for men or giggle book for girls? >> I think it's a little of both. We've all met some of these guys, but if you are a guy and you're having trouble dating, you might pick up "undateable" and see what you might be doing wrong. >>Cyndi: well, we have some photographs just to give you an example. What's wrong with this guy? Too much denim? >> The black stripe is always a drawback. Too much denim. This is sort of the redneck tuxedo look. Bad to wear jeans and a jeans jacket together. >>Dave: pot pellly doesn't help either, i guess. >> Well, you know, the denim, denim, not good. >>Cyndi: not camouflaging that. Next photo please. >> The sunglasses backwards guy. >>Dave: is that howie mandel? >> It might be. Either wear them on your face or put them in the pocket. The whole backwards thing doesn't work. >>Cyndi: looks like you have eyes in the back of your head. >> It's a little creepy. >>Dave: especially with the bald head. >>Cyndi: draw a nose, mouth. Next one. >> The comb-over. >>Cyndi: through the years we've talked about the comb-over, yet so many people still have one. >> It's still happening. The thing is, we know you are bald if you have the comb-over. Women are much more attracted to a man who, you know what, this is me. I lost my hair, whatever. I actually think bald guys are really attractive. As long as they wear it well. The comb-over, never. >>Dave: bad idea. >> And our last one. The bad facial hair. Any of the little soul patch, muttonchops, no-go with women. >>Dave: i don't know what guys are thinking. Are they supposed to look tough or cool? >>Cyndi: some women must find that sexy. >> My husband grows a goatee every thanksgiving. He's off, not at work, and i hate it! it's like his little ritual. >>Cyndi: he's a bad boy. >> He is. Just for that week. >>Cyndi: apart from appearance, what else should men avoid? >> Want to avoid any soprano sock, forget about it, ba-da-boom ba-da-bing. Cliche s, talking about being outside of the box, pushing the envelope, it means you don't have an original thought in your head. >>Cyndi: quickly, if a guy doesn't want to change? >> The truth is, a guy who has a great amount of confidence is always going to be attractive to women. If you are going to wear the ugly hawaiian shirt, own it. >>Dave: good advice. >>Cyndi: i do appreciate a man who is very comfortable in his own skin, i've got to say and wears herman's hermits shirts. >> That's hot, dave. >>Cyndi: lisa, so good to have you here. She's written a book called "stop getting dumped." She has a blog, on our web site, daytimeonline.tv, Right on our home page, you'll see >>lindsay: thanks, guys. You've probably seen the likes of sarah jessica parker, nicole richie and other celebrities carrying her purses. Rebecca minkoff is a hollywood handbag designer whose designs Entertainment Sports Dating expert, Lisa Daily came onto the Daytime Show to talk about what one's favorite drinks says about their dating habits. Black coffee drinkers tend to be popular, independent and goal orinated. Latte drinkers tend to be more traditional and not altogether ambitious. Regular tea drinkers tend to be private and not too out going. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQXpMVEUyZkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pBek9qVTFmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05Eb3pNbng4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0zOTA4ODA1NjM= http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=48479 Tue, 16 Mar 2010 10:03:55 EDT >>cyndi: and here she is, the barista babe herself. How are you? >>Dave: coffee and romance. Well, drinks and romance. >> You know, we love that research out of the smell and taste institute in chicago. Allen hersh's work, it is so fascinating. >>Cyndi: it really. Same guy that did the pizza. >> The pizza, the ice cream. He's our guy. >>Dave: a lot about what you eat and drink says a lot about who you are. >> I find this interesting. Black coffee, very, very popular. We have it right here. Black coffee drinkers tend to be responsible, ambitious, independent, aggressive and oddly enough, they like cereal. >>Cyndi: interesting. >>Dave: why not? >>Cyndi: i think that's colin. >> I think the mcdonald's special. >>Cyndi: oh, they make good coffee. >>Dave: they do have good coffee. That is very good coffee. >> So we have cafe 0 lay drinkers like tradition, they may not be very ambitious. And they may be a little superstitious. >>Cyndi: ah-hah. >> Sort of interesting. >>Dave: how many research questions do you use to find these things outs? These amazing. >> They do a basic permits profile and have them taste different things. What they notice are these clusters of personality traits that people are really ambitious or creative or tend to gravitate towards the same food. This is pink lemonade. Like the mad scientists of the world, creative, private people, sort of en. >>Gayle: i being seclueded from social distractions. >>Dave: wait a minute. What are you saying? >> They are self-absorbed and so fascinated with their own work or hobby. >>Cyndi: well, you -- you know your a bit of a hermit. >>Dave: i am a bit of a hermit. >> The best match for pink lemon aids drinker is ice tea with lemon drinker. We'll talk about that in a second. Lemonade drinkers are easy going, they avoid conflict. And very loyal to their jobs and their relatives. >>Dave: you a pick lemonade drinker? >>Cyndi: yellow? Well, you tell me. So far, what am i? >>Dave: well, you're loyal and dedicated and all of the above. >> Lemonade -- >>dave: you're tart. >> And they match better with other lemonade drinkers. >>Cyndi: i wouldn't order the lemonade because i wouldn't want the sugar. You get sugar free lemonade. >> You might have ice tea with lemon. Maybe not. They're per fixists, take charge. Fiscally conservative. They're ethic cal and romantic romantically shy. >> With or without sugar? >> I think it is the tea and lemon. Best match for them are other ice the teas with lemon or lemonade drinkers. >>Gayle: i love good ice tea. Unsweet tenned with lemon. >> I'm not a big fan of the lemon. My favorite is the green tea with peach. I love it. >>Cyndi: what does that say about you? >> I know. Outgoing. They love to be the center of attention. They're flirtation, love to be seductive and romantic. Happy playing the field when dating. Their best match is lemon dade or decaf natured tea. >>Dave: that sounds a little like you. You have books and screen plays and things going on. >> I'm a little flirty. >> So our last one is raspberry ice tea. These people tend to be success oriented, day dreamers to achieve a lot of success. Spoiled, used to being waited Vulnerable and sensitive to criticism, so may seem arrogant. They are comfortable in the limelight. Here's the sad thing about the raspberry tea drinker. They don't have a match. >>Cyndi: oh, no! >> If you are, a person who is dating a raspberry ice tea drinker, you have to be prepared to be the second banana in the relationship. >> I felt so sad. >>Cyndi: i'm sure there are some out there that have found their match. That's very interesting, lisa, thank you. graven salt. >>Cyndi: exactly. Don't forget to pick up lease is a's book, stop getting stop getting stop getting dumped. >>Dave: daytimeonline.Tv and connect with lisa. >>Cyndi: sam hallenbeck doesn't ask a pointed question. >>Dave: he did just that when he sat down with astronaut mike massimino. About the new imax documentary, Entertainment Sports Dating expert, Lisa Daily, came onto the Daytime Show to talk about using new ways of thinking in dealing with the lowest parts of one's life. She says it’s important to let the problems settle before trying to really focus on them. http://www.shadowtv.com/apps/stv_cc_stream.asx?param=ZFhObGNsOXBaRDB4TWpNMk0zeDhZMmhoYm01bGJGOXBaRDAzTkh4OFpHRjBaVDB5TURFd0xUQXpMVEE1Zkh4MGFXMWxQVEV3T2pRNE9qUTRmSHhrZFhKaGRHbHZiajB3TURvd05EbzFNWHg4YzJWeWRtbGpaVjl1WVcxbFBVZFNUMVZPUkVoUFIxOVVWbng4WW1sc2JHbHVaMTlwWkQwdE1YeDhiV2x0WlY5MGVYQmxQWFpwWkdWdkwzZ3RjM1IyTFcxd05IeDhkR2h5YjNSMGJHVTlXWHg4W0B8QF0yMDk4NjUyMjYw http://groundhog.tv/apps/playMediaEntity.do?mediaEntityId=48450 Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:48:48 EST is here to tell us why sports psychology may be just what you need to improve your dating game as well. Hi, lisa. >> Hi. >> You met a sports psychologist recently. >> I did. And i was so fascinated by what he had to say. Tess founder of a company called intersports and they coach professional athletes and sometimes teams all the way down to amateurs, and to help them with their performance. I was fascinated by what this guy had to say and i kept thinking about how this would play out in other areas of your life. >> How could we use a sports psychologist in our love life? >> Well, a lot of it has to do with state of mind. And sort of an understanding of how the mind works, and how life is sort of designed. And so that's really the basic part of it. There's some interesting tools that a lot of sports psychologists us use. They use behavioral therapy, hypnosis, things like that. And mr. Kramer says this is entirely the wrong approach, and that the ones that he uses is the analogy, sort of this glass of muddy water. And if you think about whipping through a glass of muddy water, your life is not going to really really -- you are not going to see things clearly. And he says, h do you clear the water? You let things settle. And basically he's saying that when you have these thoughts, when you are worried about your performance, when you are not living the life that you want or having the relationship that you want, that you have to sort of let this muddy water settle. >> Does that mean live for the now and not worry about all that other stuff be? >> It does. One of the things that he talked about is, you have a bad day, and you go home to your wife, and there she is sitting on the coach, surrounded by dirty laundry and burrito wrappers. >> My life every day. >> Ha ha. >> If you had a bad day, you may go, what has she been doing all day? I'm working hard, she's lying on the coach watching oprah, or "daytime." But if you have had a good day you might go home and see the exact same situation, the burrito wrappers, the dirt -- dirty laundry. And think, my gosh, i wonder what kind of day she had, what's on her mind. >> The bon bons. >> Exactly. >> So tell me about finding a place of well-being. How do we do that? Is that letting things settle? >> Letting things settle. And then the other thing is that when you have those negative thoughts, one of the things he sort of likens this to, seeing yourself in a haunted house or believing that the entire world is haunted. And the idea is that if you are going through that, if you are feeling like "i'm never going to meet anybody" or "my relation relationship sucks" or i am never going to date again or whatever, if you think of it being in a haunted house and know that it's normal, you are going to get through it and eventually be out of it. >> It's temporary. Everyone goes through it. >> I used to always kind of describe life to my kids when they would get into bad situations, look at it as a string of pearls. Each day is a pearl, and there's white ones, and most of them are white and bright and good, but every now and then you are going to come across a couple of black ones, and this might be it would be or three black ones strung But there are going to be white ones beyond that. So relax and the white ones will come back. >> And that's exactly it. And i think that's it with everything. >> If you imagine yourself a winner at sports, and you imagine yoself as a winner at love,ill that work? >> It helps a lot. A lot of what he says, and also what i really believe is that a lot of what you experience in the world is what's going on in your head. And it's your perspective of it. And one of the things he says is not to let those out side events color how it is that, you know, play your own game in your head, and don't listen to a statistic that says, oh, well, you know, there are seven single women for every one single man. It only takes one. You just play your own game. >> Speaking of color, i have to say, i love your nail polish. Beautiful blue. >> Sort of a turquoisey. I had chipped nails the other day. And the receptionist goes, let me fix those. >> Very nice. Do you have any statistics on blue nails? >> I don't but i'm sure it's a big trend. >> Thank you, lisa. Be sure to pick up one of lisa's books, "stopped getting dumped." >> For more information go to our web site daytimeonline.Tv or to lisa's web site. We can link you through ours. >> We'll be right back to see how artist derek gores is doing. How is diagnose? >> I love that picture of us. I can see us coming to life here in his work, too. Sports